ENTRY 11.29.24
As I gather my thoughts… one minute I’m coming
The Receipts Podcast w/ Tolly T & Audrey
Chizi Duru on YouTube
I Said What I Said Podcast w/ FK & Jola
MY GREAT FRIEND KELECHI!!!
I have some things to say about life lately but I just don’t know exactly how I’m gonna…
Basically, wahala for who hasn’t found their person before now. I mean honestly, the rules! THE RULES!!!
What are the odds that the last time I felt so compelled to do a little write up on here I was talking about this very topic. You want a serious & deep romantic love in your life but now you’re accused of manipulating your Christianity for it. Then there’s the concept of being perceived as desperate and centering the other gender (typically men in the negative).. suddenly your entire world revolves around relationships. Ummm…Dating has become your new personality trait, your “Roman Empire”. One would think we’ve somehow arrived at the age where settling down and family planning comes to the forefront of an individual’s (typically a women’s) mind.
Just my luck I’m surrounded by “last to engage and last to marry are fools” competitors tripping over themselves to come off the market. Proposing left and right and prepping weddings back to back —even on top of each other at this point. God forbid it’s something I now tend to think about… albeit often… hearing vows every everywhere I turn. Maybe it’s also something I want.
But as I’m genuinely trying to make time for it, being intentional and putting myself out there I need to also taper off and be mindful of how I come across while doing so? Being so cautious to not overdo and put off not only the target audience but the people I confide in the most about my struggles are also taking the piss and judging me? Ladies? Ladies.
Maybe you’re not at that stage where this is desirable to you yet or it won’t ever be. Maybe your priorities are different because we’ve established individuals are not copy and paste. Ok we’re all meant to be different and go through different things. Maybe you’ve had a different growing experience where you weren’t brought up to hold finding a significant other to such a high regard. Maybe you’ve grown to hate traditional systems…
Can we at least agree to pretend to be empathetic towards those who do and are currently going through it in the tragic state of this dating climate? The air is polluted as all f*ck out here! Be nice to us!!!
